So called ambiguous relationship between two people, is defined as a subtle relationship that closer than friendship but more distant than boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

 

In China, when talking about such relationship, people tend to say "we PLAY ambiguousness" instead of "we HAVE an ambiguous relationship". The word "play" makes it sound cool, cause people usually say this in a "no big deal at all" tone, like they are just talking about a very new computer game, which not everyone has tried yet. 

 

If this ambiguous relationship is really something that people can purely play for fun, why there are so many songs and poems crying about the pain caused by it?

 

The reason is that people use the word "play" to cover up their true but negative feelings in this relationship, such as disappointment, desperation, hesitation, fear of rejection and losing the chance..... and using this word is just a way of self-comfort.

There are also plenty of people who really mean it when they use the word "play". Those people are true cool players, who don't really care about the other sides in such relationship but only enjoy some benefit, including emotional benefit such as good feelings about being attracted to or getting attention, and physical benefit, mostly sexual, from such relationship. For them, it's properer to call it a game.

 

Thus, based on different attitudes to the word "play", where ambiguous relationship goes to is clear:

If both sides are the faking "no big deal" tone kind, then this ambiguousness could be soon ended up with serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. If one side is the faking kind, but the other is a real game player, the ambiguousness would end too, but after a period for don't know how long, depends on how much pain the faking side can endure and/or how interested the game player is in the benefit he/she get. The last situation, if both sides are real cool players, then this relationship could be lasting for quite some time, as long as both sides get the benefit they want.

What if two people claim that they like each other but they know that they won't end up together for some reasons? Well, I would say starting an ambiguous relationship is either being irresponsible, for fake players, cause they let their impulsiveness to lead the way but end up hurting themselves and even related others, or being dishonest or fictive, for real players, cause liking each other is not the real reason for them to start this, they said so just because they want those emotional or physical benefit so much that they have to lie to others or even to themselves.

 

I would rather call an ambiguous relationship a battle. It tests people's patience, matureness, judgement, courage and confidence. The side with more of these qualities wins. It could be fun, or tough as well.

There are three of us, we are homeless, mewl~~~ so sad~~, why abandoned us, we did nothing wrong, we are good kittens, mewl~~ mewl~~

 

 

 

Will you take me home please? I will try my best to entertain you. mewl~~

 

 

There are three kittens abandoned near my place, one's yellow, the other two are white. They are now living under a basket outside. As you can see, they are so~~~ cute, if you have the interest and time to take care of them, please contact me as soon as possible, thank you very much!

我楼下有三只无家可归的小猫咪，一直黄色的，两只白色的，没人管，很可怜的。如果谁能照顾他们，请跟我联系，谢谢！